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A couple of you had asked for more information about Love Languages so I thought I’d write an abbreviated Cliff Notes post about it. If you’d like to know more, though, check out the book The Five Love Languages by Larry Chapman. It has a 5-star rating on Amazon despite having over 11,000 reviews.

A love language is how we express our love and how we experience feeling love. Her are the 5 love languages plus a brief explanation:

  1. Gift Giving: A physical symbol that someone was thinking of you
  2. Quality Time: Undivided attention
  3. Words of Affirmation: Words of appreciation, compliments, verbal displays of love
  4. Acts of Service: Doing things you know your partner would like you to do
  5. Physical Touch: Loving touch such as hugging, caressing, kissing, massage, sex

A handy online quiz to determine your love language can be found here.

To be happy in a relationship, your partner must speak your love language and you must speak your partner’s love language. The problem is that we tend to speak our own love language to our partner even though it may not be his or her love language. Knowing what their love language is and how to speak it can help them feel more loved and more satisfied.

My primary love language is Physical Touch. My secondary love language is Words of Affirmation followed closely by Quality Time. Receiving Gifts and Acts of Service are not important to me at all.

What is your love language?