…or maybe just use your brain.
I was the target of an attempted scam on OkCupid.
An adorable age-appropriate doctor messaged me on OkCupid. Or so I thought.
First, his profile. He had 2 photos. One was taken holding carrot juice at a medical clinic. His first name and the practice’s name was clearly visible on his lab coat. The pic also showed a hint of a wedding ring. I didn’t think too much of it; maybe he was newly divorced.
I did a Google search on his first name, the practice name, and the city and found information on him. I found information for Dr. Jake Deutsch. Everything checked out okay.
We exchanged a few short, pleasant messages. He said he was looking for a relationship but wanted to take it slow with friendship first. That sounded perfect to me.
He asked to exchange phone numbers and/or email. I gave him my number but he apparently had some “trouble” sending photos so we moved to email.
That’s when things got suspicious. As soon as he sent a longer message, all sorts of red flags went up. He didn’t use spaces after commas or periods and he used “lol” and “ain’t”. He said his name was Dr. Jake Morgan. He spoke of his two bad experiences with OkCupid: one woman was too “into other men” and not ready for a relationship. The other scammed him for money and an airline ticket. Really? A doctor would be that clueless??
Hmm. I suspected this guy wasn’t who he said he was.
I did another Google search. Turns out Dr. Jake Deutsch is married and gay.
I went online to report this dude’s profile but saw that he’d already deleted his account. Figures.
This morning, he sent me a text saying “hello”. I ignored.
I just sent him this email:
Your grammar and writing style tipped me off that you weren’t who you say you are. No one intelligent, let alone a doctor, would write without spaces or use “lol” or “ain’t”. I went to report your profile on OKC but see you’ve deleted your account.
I don’t know what kind of scam you’re running. Next time, you might want to target someone without a brain.
After some Google searching, I see you’re using Dr. Jake Deutsch’s photos. By the way, he’s married and gay.
Do not contact me again.
That sure was fun to compose!
Trust your instincts. If something seems fishy, it probably is. Do a little digging. Google is your friend.