Hayden and I celebrated my birthday by going to our favorite neighborhood Mexican restaurant on Friday night. I was still feeling iffy from my hangover the day prior and told him there was no way in hell I was having a margarita. He agreed abstinence was a good idea.
We both drank iced tea with dinner.
Back at home, he explained that the anniversary gift he had ordered still had not arrived. Instead, he was going to shuffle his intended gifts and give that anniversary gift to me for my birthday once it finally arrives. The birthday gift will be delayed.
I still don’t know what that gift is and now I’m overly curious.
For our anniversary, he gave me a bottle of “fancy wine” (his words) – a 2014 pinot noir – and a super sweet, heartfelt card. I cherish the card.
We’ll drink the wine once I’m feeling better.
The biggest surprise for me was that he said he’d packed some hiking clothes. He wanted to go hiking on Saturday! This was the first time he had ever suggested doing anything the next day rather than hurrying home. I was impressed!
We watched an episode of GLOW then went to bed early. I still wasn’t feeling well and we were both exhausted.
We slept 11 hours. !!!!
We went to breakfast the next morning at one of our favorite neighborhood diners and decided we’d do the Lands End Trail here in San Francisco. It’s an easy 4 mile trail along the coast. I didn’t want to do anything strenuous as I was feeling rather light-headed.
The weather was foggy yet unusually warm at around 70 degrees. We started at Sutro Baths and visited Mile Rock Beach, the rock labyrinth, Lands End Point, and finally Baker Beach. I was really dizzy for most of the hike, breaking out into a cold sweat at one point and putting my head between my legs to prevent passing out. Once at Baker Beach, we made the decision to catch an Uber back to the car rather than walking back.
I felt terrible we had to cut the hike short, but Hayden insisted we’d do another hike this weekend with the kids.
He left for home soon after arriving at my house. I took a long nap and didn’t feel well enough to do anything else that day.
Mars had invited me to go bike riding with him, the kids, and a few friends on Sunday at noon but I had to pass on that, too. I spent most of the day lounging at home, only leaving the house to run to the grocery store.
I now suspect I had a touch of a virus rather than an extended hangover.
I started feeling better last night and asked Mars and the kids if they wanted to meet for dinner at a neighborhood restaurant. The kids were too exhausted by the long bike ride so Mars invited me to dinner instead.
Once the kids finished their dinner and left the room, I told him I wasn’t going to pursue purchasing a home in San Francisco if he was going to move to England. Why would I stay in cost-prohibitive San Francisco without a support system, especially when my job isn’t even located here. He acted shocked and responded, “What?! I’m not going anywhere. What are you talking about??”
Is he kidding me?
I said, “Um, you did say that. You gave me detailed information about how you would do it, and you even mentioned taking the kids for 1 year as an educational opportunity… which isn’t going to happen, by the way. I’d allow a summer but not an entire year.”
He responded, “Oh, that. I was just thinking out loud! I’m not leaving the kids. I’ll be here for at least the next 10 years. I don’t even know what’s going to happen with this girl yet…..”
Phew! I was so relieved to hear he wasn’t actually planning to leave the country with young kids still at home.
I brought this all up because my realtor sent me an email asking for an update on my pre-approval status because there may be more inventory than usual due to the fall season. I didn’t know what to tell him other than I’ve been dragging my heels on getting pre-approved because I wasn’t sure if I was going to stay here or not.
Guess it’s decided: I’m staying in San Francisco.
Hayden was going to come over last night but texted me to say he didn’t feel well. Uh oh, I think I may have gotten him sick! He’s feeling better today and is going to come over tonight instead.
In other news, I forgot to mention that I got birthday greetings on Facebook from both The Blond Mandarin and Colombian Hottie.
The Blond Mandarin is still in a relationship, and appears quite happy other than still being unemployed. Poor guy. I wonder what the problem is, especially because he is highly educated, has impressive experience, and is charming. It makes me wonder if he’s saying something inappropriate during interviews or if his reasons for leaving his previous job are unsavory.
Colombian Hottie texted me late on Thursday night after I had returned from the conference when I was still feeling sick. He asked how my birthday had gone and said he wanted to get together to celebrate. I thought that was sweet. I asked him if he was free on Saturday night. No, he wasn’t. He’d be attending a wedding in Los Angeles.
As the conversation continued, he made an inappropriate comment about wishing he’d been in the bath with me when I told him I’d taken a hot epsom salts bath in an attempt to detox.
When I didn’t comment on that, he said, “Would you have liked that?”
No, no I wouldn’t. I told him I literally couldn’t remember the last time I saw him and that I thought the comment was inappropriate.
He asked, “What are you doing now?”
Oh hell no. He’d better not be insinuating a late night booty call!
I told him I was going to sleep, then put my phone on silent so I could crash.
Oh! And I almost forgot to mention that I got a text out of the blue last week from a dude I hadn’t talked to in several months. We connected through Clover but never actually had a first date. I told him I was surprised to hear from him and asked what caused him to reach out. His response? “I had free time yesterday and thought of you.”
I thought that was sweet but didn’t respond. I haven’t heard from him again since.